That question - “What is their nervous system responding to?” - is the difference between fighting against your child and supporting them through dysregulation. Here’s what this looks like in real moments: Morning shoe meltdown: Instead of: “You’re being so difficult. Just put them on!” Ask yourself: What’s happening in their body right now? Are they already overwhelmed from breakfast sensory input? Is the seam bothering them? Did they just transition from preferred activity? Then respond to the