One (person) has implied I’m not a good friend if I don’t help them get to the doctor, sit with their dog, etc.

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Dear Abby: I enjoy helping my friends, my partner and family members. I feel doing good deeds is important in my retirement. My hands are pretty full with getting my elderly dad to medical visits, and I also visit him three times a week. I also have older single friends I do things for, such as occasionally dropping off meals and running errands.

For some folks, it’s only a short step from being a people-pleaser to being a doormat. You have been kind and helpful; now it’s time to start helping yourself. You shouldn’t feel guilty for saying no to entitled individuals.

One of them has implied I’m not a good friend if I don’t help them get to the doctor, sit with their dog, etc. She never seems to remember past good deeds and loves to start arguments