“ [They] condemned queerness very publicly … while embodying it privately,” Shari writes of her mother and her business partner and alleged lover, Jodi Hildebrandt — in “ The House of My Mother: A Daughter’s Quest for Freedom ” (Gallery Books; Jan. 7).

Ruby Franke and her business partner, Jodi Hildebrandt, pleaded guilty to four counts of aggravated child abuse. The pair were jailed for up to 30 years each last February.

Why was Ruby sneaking around in the middle of the night like a teenager trying not to get caught by her parents? Were they really doing candlelit massages in my bedroom?’ Shari Franke’s memoir reads